When we find joy in such different things, and live in such different ways, I believe that we each live in our own world and get happiness from such different things. But do we all base our worlds around the idea of happiness? As Anne Frank said:

“We all live with the objective of being happy; our lives are all different and yet the same.”

I think that we all invent our own worlds, each and everyone of us different from the other, but with one common goal in mind, happiness.

People are different from one another, they have different visions and diverse goals, which is what makes us all unique from one another. As a member of a family of five, I grew up with five people with very different priorities and personalities. With my mother being extremely intelligent and school oriented, her vision was, school first, and everything else took the back burner. My father having grown up as a single child felt that family was the most important aspect of life and everything else came second. My oldest sister, Vicki, took the advice of my mother placing school first and was your so-called “nerd”. Here is just a little picture of Vicki:
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Your typical nerd!

My older sister Erica found art to be here calling and was your typical “flower child”. And I, the youngest child, placed sports as my top and only priority.
My mother a very independent person plays the working mother role, and she does it well. She sends off that tough vibe, while still being very caring and nurturing. Some of my friends parents jokingly gave the the nickname of "The General" because she appeared so strict and rigid to outsiders. My dad on the other hand is the “manly, masculine type” and plays the man of the house role, with a feeling of dominance streaming out of him. My oldest sister “Vicki” is definitely the “goody too shoos” type and does everything that is expected of her. My other sister Erica beats to her own drum and is kind of on her own. While I, am the only one that finds athletics as top priority leaving everyone in my family to constantly think that my priorities are out of order.
With my priorities being so different from my parents our heads butted many times in my years growing up. Them trying to get me to spend all my time studying and doing educational things. While I tried to get outside every second possible just to kick a soccer ball, or really play with a ball of any kind. You can get a little gist of how my younger years went by looking at a trailer from the movie “Bend it Like Becham”… Even though the soccer in this movie is pathetic, and it kills me even to promote this clip, it will give you the gist:

Different Views


Although I had a rough time with my parents in my younger years, trying to get them to see my point of view, I realized that I am not alone in this situation. My best friend in high school, Kinjal, was Indian but she did not possess the traditional Indian views. Yet her parents were very religious and very traditional. She actually had to lie to her parents throughout high school, they didn't condone her playing sports so she just went behind their backs, without them knowing and played anyway. Eventually in the middle of senior year she needed to tell them because our 4x800 team made it to nationals and there were consent forms and things of that sort that needed to be signed. It was an enormous deal and she was almost unable to go. Her parents just couldn't grasp the idea that sports are important. They said that it was just "some stupid game, and was a waste of time". After much convincing and many tears she finally received permission to play, but there were many stipulations with grades, and things of that sort. She and her parents consistently got in arguments with the choices she made. But Kinjal was determined to live the life she wanted.

When people make priorities, and decide what their goals are they inventing a world of their own, I know for sure that my sisters and me do not live in the same world. When my oldest sister puts 16 hours into studying for a test and gets an “A” she feels satisfied and complete. But I on the other hand, would much rather play soccer for 15 hours, study for a couple, and get a “B”. I like learning, but grades aren’t everything to me, if I learn the material and get a “B” I am happy. That is one of the major places that we differ. Vicki would rather get the grades and the honors, just to say that she accomplished those things. I on the other hand like what I take out of things better, grades are important to me but in a very different way than they are to her. When we make decisions about our priorities and our lifestyle are we technically inventing our own world? When we find joy in such different things, and live in such different ways, I believe that we each live in our own world and get happiness from such different things. But do we all base our worlds around the idea of happiness? As Anne Frank said:

“We all live with the objective of being happy; our lives are all different and yet the same.”


I think that we all invent our own worlds, each and everyone of us different from the other, but with one common goal in mind, happiness.
One other thing that I often think about is the question of, can we change each other’s worlds, and make others rearrange their priorities based the influence others have on them? I believe this is a huge part of the process. My parents started out not being supporters of my athletic lifestyle but now they are my biggest supporter and watch soccer and other sports on TV often. Did I have this affect on them? Without me in their lives would they be living in the same way? As we all may have our own worlds invented around what is important to us, other people affect our worlds greatly and change not only our priorities but our lifestyles in general.


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